Do any of you stall or procrastinate about getting something done because you don’t think you can do it perfectly? Sometimes you won’t even start a project if everything involved with the project isn’t perfect (you don’t have enough time, or don’t have the supplies needed, or the moon and the stars aren’t perfectly aligned)? This phenomenon is called paralysis by perfectionism… and I’m quite certain I have it.
I know this will come as a big shock (sarcasm) – I’m not perfect. I’m a long way from perfect. In fact, nobody’s perfect, right? So, why do I think I have to be perfect? Still trying to figure that one out.
I have always been a perfectionist, but it’s never been as debilitating as it is now that I write this blog. My blog, which as you know, is mostly about trying to show all of you my perfectly made projects! Or, to make you think that they are perfectly made. Oh the pressure!
For instance, we have been done with our home renovation for a little over a year. But, I still haven’t made the draperies for the windows. I have the fabrics, the poles, rings and finials. Basically, everything that I need to start. Everything, that is, except the courage.
The courage to make my own window treatments, hang them, take pictures of them and then present them for the world to see.
Before I had my blog, I just had to worry about what my family, friends and neighbors thought of what I was doing around the house. (Huh, as I wrote that last line, I realized that I shouldn’t even care what they think, as long as I like it). Now, my projects are out there for everyone to see.
A couple of weeks ago, I woke up one morning fed up with myself. I thought – JUST DO IT!!!
So, I’m finally just going ahead and making my draperies. It’s funny, but it’s kind of been a relief to get started on them.
Will they be perfect? No, probably not, but nobody but me will know that. They’ll finally be done.
Someday, you might even get to see them, but only after I’ve hung them perfectly, taken perfect pictures of them, and have edited the perfect pictures so that they are even more perfectly perfect. Wow, see what I mean…
I’m not sure how to stop having paralysis by perfectionism. Usually, it seems that I have to get over myself and just do it.
You’ll probably still see posts here where it looks like everything is perfectly done, but just know that it’s not perfect. My house certainly does not look perfect most of the time, and I’ll try to show some of that too, now and then. The good, the bad and the ugly. Does anybody remember this lovely picture?
Here’s a sneak peak at another project I’ll be sharing soon.. (Just to be clear – this was not a staged picture, this is actually what our pantry looked liked for a long time – again paralysis by perfectionism).
Do any of you suffer from paralysis by perfectionism? Any tips for how to deal with it?
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